You quite like him, you could say he is the perfect man, the only problem is that he doesn’t pay any attention to you and instead of you walking away, you cling
Surely, when you see that man who attracts you too much , you wonder why you like him so much if he does not show any indication that he pays attention to you, why can’t you leave him? And the answers to this question are several, today in In Couple, we will talk about why they are attraction that borders on obsession sometimes.
There is nothing wrong with you for noticing someone who does not correspond to you, society tends to love those love stories in which one of the two is impossible and you have to do a circus, somersault and theater, to have a "happy forever", perhaps that’s where this issue of feeling attraction to the difficult comes from.
There are women who could justify looking at a man who does not correspond to them, because it represents that challenge for themselves, it is a challenge, a test that they must overcome, there are more reasons that tell us about it, here only 5, that help us to understand why we like someone who doesn’t even turn to look at us.
Idealize platonic love. We grow up with movies, stories and situations that make us believe that that person who does not pay us the slightest attention, one day I turned to see us to discover that we are the love of his life and let’s live that romance that you saw with Julia Roberts and Hugh Grant , the reality is different and you may not like it.
You don’t feel enough. If in your childhood you had to earn the love of your parents, their attention or a show of affection, surely you grew up with the need to validate that you were enough, deserving of that affection; now in adult life you need to continue validating that you are enough but now with a person in the field of love.
You seek security. In the sense that you know you don’t have to worry, that man has already told you no, you know what to expect from him, it is more complex to love someone who corresponds to you because the chances of getting hurt are more, because you have to take care of that love that is with you, than the one you don’t even have insurance.
It’s a whim. That attraction is already more in the whims section, than in something genuine and disinterested, you want it no matter what, because it’s like a treasure that you have to get to show off, when you have it you’re going to leave it very quickly, because the season is over. novelty and you still have the hope that he will run to you, acknowledging his love, that will not happen.