If you, as a parent, insist on always doing your holy will and not giving your children freedom, you will be making such a typical and big mistake that it will affect their future. Be aware!
Nobody teaches us to be parents, that is a fact, we live this beautiful stage without the necessary knowledge to guide our children along a perfect path, in which we need to find the balance of things, something that ensures that we have that balance. between what is just and what is loving, which is not always the case, and that is where the problems emerge.
We know in advance that there are all kinds of parents, some very loving, others too strict and some more who are unfortunately very selfless, and as we have already mentioned, the key is in balance, because when we give love to the fullest and the we protect too much, we are also causing them harm.
The problem with this is that we not only affect them in their childhood stage, but that it continues to have repercussions in the future, because it is like a chip that you have inserted into that creature, it adopts it and is programmed, and if it is not corrected in time, the consequences will continue to affect him.
For example, if your child has grown up with a lot of insecurity and fear, believe it has been as a result of overprotection, why? because when you do, you unconsciously send him the message that he is incapable of doing something on his own, which creates insecurities and dependencies.
On the other hand, children who are overprotected are usually the most fearful, and also accumulate a lot of anxiety, why? because parents have always put that fear in them for everything, in such a way that they even generate traumas, and although this depends on the character and personality of the little one, if he is vulnerable, he will become the perfect victim, and that’s it. adult will continue to drag this evil, fear will always pursue him.
Another point where you strongly affect them is in relation to low self-esteem, because if you always solve things for them instead of teaching them to do it, you will be indirectly sending them the message that they are good for nothing who do not know how to use themselves. for themselves and that they have always needed and will need you for everything.
Finally, you create in them a very large dependency, and the worst of all is that you take away that resilience capacity, that is, you cause them to be bad at overcoming the adversities of life, they do not know how to get ahead without your help, and for Therefore, it is difficult for them to face new challenges, so they prefer to remain mediocrity.