A divorce is difficult to deal with, but above all you suffer in the part of overcoming it. How long will it take you to feel good again? we tell you
When married couples decide to divorce , it is the beginning of a complex process, at the moment in which both agree to legally separate, many things happen, emotionally people feel sad, frustrated and at a certain point, somewhat lost, it is difficult know what’s next.
Once both have agreed on those legal issues, the paperwork, the disputes between lawyers and all the exhausting part of a divorce, things do not end there, because something more complex comes , it is about assimilating that the couple with whom you shared perhaps a life or with which you dreamed of having a future, will not be there anymore.
Perhaps the paperwork process in the divorce has concluded, but it is very difficult now to face this issue that is more emotional and in that process you ask yourself: When is it going to end? When am I going to feel good again? Will I believe in love again? And other questions that go through your mind.
Each person has their own rhythm to overcome something like a divorce, in that sense you must learn to differentiate between overcoming grief and overcoming divorce, as we mentioned previously, after the stages of denial, will go, negotiation with yourself, depression and finally acceptance, which is where the divorce as such goes.
There is no certain time that tells you "in three months you will be fine", you yourself will know when this happens , after accepting all the emotions you are experiencing, when you stop blaming yourself for the separation, worrying about your ex partner, you must learn to live without him and find yourself again.
We can tell you that it is a long road ahead of you, but along the way you will find valuable things that will help you in the process, from that self-esteem that you had left behind, to the people who will help you when you can no longer sadness, do not count the days because you make it more tedious and exhausting.
When you feel at peace, free and ready to love again, it will be the moment in which you can say "I’m over it" you will be fine with yourself and with your ex-partner, they will have found another kind of balance that will benefit them and if they have children , they will be able to take care of them and ensure their happiness, without there being a constant lawsuit, it will be you again.